As I was reading yet another news story this morning about a father killing his children and then himself, I was just so sickened and saddened. Obviously, there were some severe mental health issues that had probably never been diagnosed and/or treated. Why? A man with those issues knows that something isn't right, but some men have this warped notion of masculinity that says we don't admit these things and we certainly don't get help for them because it makes us weak. That's ridiculous. How many people have to suffer, how many families have to be destroyed (literally or figuratively), how many people have to live broken lives, and how many people have to die before society gets serious about men and mental health issues - especially depression?!?
Mental health issues are not something we brought on ourselves or something to be ashamed of. These are not problems we asked for or problems we could have kept from happening to us. So check your ego and that macho crap at the door, please.
I myself have been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety disorder and depression. I'm on three different daily meds for them and I go to therapy every other week. There - I have nothing to be ashamed of! And my life is better because of it. In fact, I feel like I'm more of a man because I got help for it, I got it in check, and I can now proceed with being the man my family deserves and needs me to be. And I don't put that out there to ask you to pat me on the back. I put it out there so that hopefully someone who needs help reads this and it gives them the courage to go seek it out.
Dads and men, please get the help you need if you need it!